Talking about it may not be the whole picture.
Talking can help us make sense of our experiences. It can also be useful to notice how those experiences affect our feelings, reactions, and daily habits.
If you are honest with yourself
You are not failing. Some things you learned in childhood may still be affecting you today.
Kabhi kabhi bachpan mein hum apne baare mein kuch baatein maan lete hain — that our needs can wait, that we must keep everyone happy, or that we should not speak up. Those old lessons can stay with us, even when life has changed.
- You react more strongly than you meant to with your children — and later wonder why it happened.
- You keep giving to everyone around you, then feel guilty when you need rest.
- Saying no feels wrong, even when you are already stretched thin.
- You try to do what is right and stay close to Allah, but still have difficult days — and then feel guilty for struggling.
- Even when you finally sit down, you may find it hard to relax. Your shoulders stay tight, your mind keeps going, and rest does not come easily.
- You have read, watched, and tried to stay positive — but you still want to understand what is underneath these patterns.
These struggles do not mean there is something wrong with you. Sometimes, old experiences shape how we respond today. Understanding those patterns can be a meaningful first step towards change.
Why the same patterns can keep returning
Knowing what to do is not always enough.
It does not mean you have failed. Sometimes, we understand an idea in our mind, but find it hard to put into practice in everyday life.
Positive thinking has its limits.
Positive thoughts can be helpful, but they may not be enough on their own. Sometimes we need to understand where a belief came from and practise a different response, one small step at a time.
Understanding is different from blame.
This work is not about blaming your parents or yourself. Islam reminds us of rahmah (mercy), tawbah (turning back to Allah), and tawakkul (trust in Allah). These can guide us as we reflect and choose how we want to move forward.
Where it is stored
Body
Noticing the feelings and tension that can show up in everyday life, and learning to respond to them with care.
What you believe
Story
Noticing old beliefs such as "my needs can wait" or "I have to keep everyone happy to be loved."
Who you belong to
Soul
Making space for faith, rahmah, tawakkul, and tazkiyah as you reflect on your experiences and seek a way forward.
This is Inner Child Healing in the light of Islam — a chance to look at your experiences, beliefs, and faith together, with compassion and practical reflection.
In their own words
Reflections shared by women who joined Inner Child Healing.
I was using the words, same as my mother, without even realizing.
I started understanding that it was not my children who were troubling me more... they were my childhood wounds. After attending those wounds I started connecting with the child inside my children.
Inner Child Healing participant
There was another message from him, saying you drafted this letter so beautifully.. I am feeling so proud to read this. I felt sooo happy and relieved alhamdulillah. And slept calmly after that.
Inner Child Healing participant
Inner child healing is a journey where I met myself wounded, raw, unprotected and was able to heal myself.
Inner Child Healing participant
Anger ko rok ne liye join ki thi yeh space maine. Anger convert ho kar love mey badal gaya Alhamdullilah Biiznillah. My heart is full of love for them, my eyes are full of happy tears Alhamdullilah...
Inner Child Healing participant
From superheroes thay became real humans who are doing their best possible in ways they have learnt and they believe to be right for them and me. They are my heroes, real and authentic. The hurt and complaints are gone.
Inner Child Healing participant
Mai unko judge kar rhi thi kyuke mai apne aap ko accept ni kar rhi thi, perfectionism ki koshish, apne se bhi wohi demand aur unse bhi.
Allah ki rehmat se hi ye likhte me hi ek bht bht sukoon sa feel hua. Jab mene aakhiri line likhi to mai puri tarah mutmaeen thi, mai unko accept kar rhi thi aur apne aap ko bhi.
Inner Child Healing participant
أَلَا بِذِكْرِ اللَّهِ تَطْمَئِنُّ الْقُلُوبُ
“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.”
Surah Ar-Ra'd · 13:28
Who is teaching
I bring both my learning and my lived experience to this work.
I lost my mother at seventeen, and my father at twenty-six — five months before my wedding. For years, I carried a sadness and heaviness that I did not know how to make sense of.
Positive thinking alone was not enough for me. My journey included inner work and returning to the guidance and mercy of Allah. Alhamdulillah, I have learned a great deal about myself through that process.
I funded my Master’s degree and certifications while raising two children and managing a home. I have guided over a hundred Muslim women through this work. In this session, I will share what I have learned through my training, experience, and the women I have supported.
- Counselling Psychologist — Master's in Psychology, 15+ years in the field
- Certified life coach & emotional healing coach (NLP, relationship coaching and healing modalities)
- Founder of Positive Muslimah Community — a Muslim women's healing community built without a single paid ad
- 100+ Muslim women guided through emotional healing and generational-pattern work
15+Years in psychology & healing work
100+Muslim women guided
2+ yrsFree of major depressive episodes
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Where this sits
Inner Child Healing is part of the Spiritual Achievers Diamond membership.
This masterclass is a place to begin — one live session to explore where some patterns may come from and how you can start responding differently. The full Inner Child Healing work is part of the Spiritual Achievers Diamond membership.
The masterclass
Free, live, and complete in itself. You will have a chance to understand common patterns, reflect on your own experiences, and take away a practical idea to think about after the session.
Inner Child Healing
A guided, step-by-step opportunity to explore these patterns in more depth beyond the introductory masterclass.
Spiritual Achievers Diamond membership
Inner Child Healing is part of the Spiritual Achievers Diamond membership — alongside the rest of the journey for Muslim women building a Divine Positive Family.
There is nothing you need to buy to attend. Join the free session, listen, and decide in your own time whether you would like to continue.
Before you register
Your honest questions, answered honestly.
I am not sure I have "childhood trauma". Is this still for me?
Yes. You do not need to use the word trauma to recognise that some childhood experiences still affect you. Perhaps you learned to keep everyone happy, hide your feelings, or always be the strong one. This masterclass offers a gentle space to understand those patterns through a psychological and Islamic perspective.
Is this therapy or counselling?
This is an educational masterclass about inner child healing, viewed through psychology and Islamic teachings. It is not therapy, diagnosis, or medical treatment, and it does not replace care from a qualified health professional. If you are receiving professional care, please continue with it.
I am not married and do not have children. Is this for me?
Yes. You can explore the patterns you grew up with whether or not you are married or have children. Understanding them now may help you make more mindful choices in your future relationships and family life.
What language will the session be in?
The session will be mainly in English, with Roman Urdu woven in naturally, just as Bushra speaks. Maqsad yahi hai ke baat clear bhi ho aur apni si bhi lage.
My children and home will not let me sit for two hours. Should I still join?
Join if you can, even if your home is busy. Keep your expectations realistic and take part in the time available to you. If possible, arrange a quiet corner so you can listen and reflect.
What do I need to bring?
If possible, bring a quiet corner, a pen and paper, and headphones. Most of all, come with an open mind and give yourself permission to reflect honestly.
Is it really free?
Yes, the live masterclass is free to attend. You can join, learn, and decide for yourself whether you want to explore any further work afterwards. There is no obligation to buy anything.
What is the Spiritual Achievers Diamond membership?
It is a membership for Muslim women who want to continue learning and working on personal growth, family relationships, and building a Divine Positive Family. The full Inner Child Healing work is included, and Bushra will explain the details during the session.
Do I have to join the membership to attend?
No. You can attend the free masterclass without joining the membership. If you are interested in continuing afterwards, you can learn about the Spiritual Achievers Diamond membership and decide in your own time.
Thursday, 15 October · 4:00 PM IST
Begin with yourself. Make room for change.
The way we respond today can shape the atmosphere we create at home. You cannot change everything overnight, but you can begin by understanding yourself with honesty and mercy. Join this free live masterclass and take the first step.
Free to attend · Live · 120 minutes with Bushra Yahya